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[PSA] Roo and the Babyness 
11th-Aug-2010 10:00 am
Painted Redhead
No, I'm not pregnant.

This is a PSA for all of my friends who are pregnant, want to be pregnant, will be pregnant at some point in the future, have been pregnant and now have little bundles of [joy/squalling angst/dirty diapers/etc].

I have said in the past that my objection to my friends getting pregnant is that I stop being able to have conversations with them. Where we once talked about literature, film, obscure corners of religious studies, feminism in primarily islamic countries, or our other friends, all conversations start to revolve around babies. And nothing but babies. And all attempts to change the subject to something we used to find interesting turn to babies.

I don't like children. On a good day, I sort of tolerate them, and usually I find child rearing fascinating from a purely intellectual perspective.

This doesn't mean that I never want to hear about your pregnancy/children/seamonkeys. You are my friend. I want to know what is happening in your life. I want to ask you questions about what it's like, how you feel, your opinions on how to raise children, whether you've read some obscure book on parenting and whether you feel that author is completely on crack and/or has never actually had children.

I also want to send you links to articles and blogs that I've read about childhood development, the nature of fear and why we feel it and how parents instill it into their children, and whether listening to Mozart will stimulate random parts of your child's brain and make them 76% less likely to become a serial killer than children who listen to death metal. I want to give you random children's books that I find that look really interesting/weird/just plain crazy, and I will occasionally wish to poke your baby and make them smile/cry/look at me like 'who the hell is the person?'

But I also still want to have those conversations about the development of architecture during the renaissance and whether we think so-and-so is crazy for dating whats-his-noodle and whether we should stage an intervention.
Comments 
11th-Aug-2010 06:59 pm (UTC)
This is one of the most awesome things I have read. Thanks. :D
11th-Aug-2010 10:57 pm (UTC)
I agree. Thankfully I have had better experiences with baby-fied friends and have found that not all of them revolve all things around their children. But it does happen and I know the pain you're talking about.

And my icon for this comment has nothing to do with it, however I rarely (if ever) get to use my Susanna Hoffs icon and more people need to see her in all of her icon glory.
12th-Aug-2010 05:15 am (UTC)
You know, my seamonkeys say they have similar problems with conversation.
12th-Aug-2010 01:13 pm (UTC)
My only baby is 19 so I will try to refrain from complaining about her not getting a job or going to college.
12th-Aug-2010 07:44 pm (UTC)
I promise that when I have a baby we can and will still have those conversations, because if we didn't I'd probably end up hospitalized or something from going nuts.
12th-Aug-2010 10:37 pm (UTC)
We can still talk about babies in reference to the BCUs of appliances, right? :-)

While J and I plan on doing that whole spawning thing, I would be a very sad panda if all I got to talk about were bowel movements and trying to hear real words out of gurgling nonsense.
13th-Aug-2010 06:38 am (UTC)
OK. I promise not to tell you when I get pregnant then. :P
13th-Aug-2010 07:37 pm (UTC)

Amen Sistah!!
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